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Thirteen reasons not to smack

THIRTEEN REASONS NOT TO SMACK YOUR KIDS


I find it astonishing that smacking children is still being debated in some countries. I live in a country where violence against children has been illegal to for many years – as illegal as it is to hurt your dog or beat your spouse. It’s astonishing as all the evidence points to the fact that smacking is ineffectual, leads to seriously…

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Parent Allies Guide to the Festive Season

The Parent Allies Guide to the Festive Season


‘Tis the season to be jolly! And stressed! And broke! And also, the season to sort of regress to your seven year old self at family gatherings! Fa la la la la-la la la la! Ah, I jest, I jest. We’ve got this. We so do. (Some minutes.) However. Just in case you need a little fortifying of your parenting…

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A parent's job is not to control children

THE JOB OF A PARENT IS NOT TO CONTROL CHILDREN


Our horns were locked, my six year old and I. Once again we were fighting over food. I wanted her to just try the lentil soup. “I know you’d like it,” I cajoled, on edge. She physically turned away from the table. She’d said no and now she was flatly refusing to engage. I knew I was feeling triggered but…

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The second step towards becoming a Parent Ally


This is part of a series called “4 steps to becoming a Parent Ally” The first in the series can be found right here. So, you’ve spent some time analysing the preconceptions you bring to your parenting. You’ve bought right into this idea that you want to modernise your parenting, raise empathetic children ‘cos that’s what the world needs. You’ve decided to shift…

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How to be an ally to your school going child

5 WAYS TO BE AN ALLY TO YOUR CHILD IN SCHOOL


Here in England we are three weeks into the new academic year. After a wonderfully relaxing summer of camping, festivals and family time we were all gearing up for the new term to begin. Just hours into the first day my phone is alight with emails and messages from the School Office, reminding me that the holidays are well and truly…

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BEING AN ALLY TO YOUR CHILD ON A HECTIC SCHOOL MORNING

AN HONEST ACCOUNT OF A HECTIC SCHOOL MORNING


Just thinking about the morning routine on a school day creates a physical reaction in me. My head hurts slightly and I feel my body tense. Of all the transitions we regularly have in our family this is by far the hardest. Why is that? We have very few places we have to be at a particular time. When we…

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Parent Allies: Supporting your anxious child

HOW TO BE AN ALLY TO A CHILD WITH ANXIETY


We’re all familiar with feeling anxious. It’s not pleasant. Heart racing, butterflies in the tum, can’t think clearly. What if you lived like that most of the time? For months at a time. What if you lived with an impending sense of doom or low-level anxiety that has you checking the doors and windows are locked, repeatedly, on a hot…

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