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How to become a parent ally after a traumatic childhood

Becoming a Parent Ally after a traumatic childhood

We are so grateful to Rebecca C for sharing her story here with us. It comes with a trigger warning, descriptions of childhood trauma. Love and courage to you as you read her story.  The first time I remember disassociating from abuse I was eight years old.  I vividly remember where my brain took me, to a play kitchen I had…

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Thirteen reasons not to smack


I find it astonishing that smacking children is still being debated in some countries. I live in a country where violence against children has been illegal to for many years – as illegal as it is to hurt your dog or beat your spouse. It’s astonishing as all the evidence points to the fact that smacking is ineffectual, leads to seriously…

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Parent Allies Guide to the Festive Season

The Parent Allies Guide to the Festive Season

‘Tis the season to be jolly! And stressed! And broke! And also, the season to sort of regress to your seven year old self at family gatherings! Fa la la la la-la la la la! Ah, I jest, I jest. We’ve got this. We so do. (Some minutes.) However. Just in case you need a little fortifying of your parenting…

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A parent's job is not to control children


Our horns were locked, my six year old and I. Once again we were fighting over food. I wanted her to just try the lentil soup. “I know you’d like it,” I cajoled, on edge. She physically turned away from the table. She’d said no and now she was flatly refusing to engage. I knew I was feeling triggered but…

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The second step towards becoming a Parent Ally

This is part of a series called “4 steps to becoming a Parent Ally” The first in the series can be found right here. So, you’ve spent some time analysing the preconceptions you bring to your parenting. You’ve bought right into this idea that you want to modernise your parenting, raise empathetic children ‘cos that’s what the world needs. You’ve decided to shift…

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